Passionate French kisses are positively great, sometimes. But they are a lot more scarce than movies lead you to believe. Not everyone likes it and, even if they do, you need that special spark/flash of excitement and unique atmosphere to really engage in a passionate tongue kiss without coming across as over-enthusiastic or plain crazy.
So, my advice is to don’t try too much, don’t over do it. Just relax and avoid being caught up in techniques instead of living this tongue kiss as you should: A pure moment of pleasure and sensuality.
How to tongue kiss - French kissing tip #6: Don’t put to much pressure on the lips.
Do not put too much pressure on your partner's lips Be careful and tender at first. Still, the pressure applied on each other mouth will vary depending on the level of your desire, the intensity of the French kiss and the feelings/passion/desire accompanying it. Again, it may seem a good idea to go for the passionate tongue kiss, but it can reveal itself a poor decision if done inappropriately, at the wrong time or if it’s uncalled for.
If you ’basically’ never really paid much attention to the weight you put on your partners' mouth/lips, read the following. I hope, from now on, you will.
How to French kiss good - tongue kissing -hot kissing- Low pressure on the lipsAlso, some problems and/or inconveniences can appear when putting too much pressure on your partner's lips while French kissing her/him:
- It can hurt a bit.
If the lips are considered as erogenous zones it’s because they’re easy to stimulate. And if they’re easy to stimulate it’s because they are very sensitive. So, be gentle.
- You can touch her/his teeth with yours.
The lips are soft. So, if you’re applying too much force on them, their volume will diminish. It’s physics. They won’t act as a stopper between your teeth and your partner's anymore. Therefore your teeth are more exposed and they may collide. It’s not necessarily painful but it’s annoying for sure and revealing of your lack of skills, your clumsiness.
- It can also be perceived as if you were forcing yourself on your partner.
Your partner may, in this case, have a movement of rejection (by reflex) or try to distance her/himself a bit. It could feel as if you were trying to overpower her/him. In any event, it’s not the kind of feeling you want your partner to undergo.
How to tongue kiss - French kissing tip #7: Share the desire and feel the passion
It is unconceivable, in my opinion, to try French Kissing girls or tongue kissing someone if you don’t feel some passion/desire when you (are about to) tongue kiss them.
Because you cannot efficiently French kiss a girl or a guy if you don’t feel some kind of passion, or desire for her/him.
How can you express, share and convey something you don’t feel?
Also, it’s important to have your partner's implicit consent when tongue kissing her/him. Yet, you don’t want to ask permission since it’s dumb to do so.
To properly initiate a French kiss without asking but while being respectful enough to see if the desire is shared, read our How to switch from a kiss to a French kiss article.
way you prefer… Till you find a new one because your relationship won’t be the same, because of your mood on this particular day, because of her/him… That’s why the title of this article is ‘Develop your own French kissing style’ and not create it (once and for all).
Just be careful to don’t always make the same kind of kiss. Everyone likes some variety and surprises (especially girls/women).
Who are you? What do you see, when you open a dating page in some magazine or at the website? “I would like to find a clever, beautiful and interesting girl; she should be housewifely and born a lot of children for me…”, bla-bla-bla and so on. It is really awful, because we all want many things, but we don’t think about our own qualities.
